For those of you that may not know - I am a newlywed. Jeremy and I got married on August 10th. It's hard to believe we are already approaching a month into marriage, the time has really flown by. There's still a thousand things to do when it comes to name changing and those darn thank you notes that are haunting me but still trying to find time to just enjoy this new time in our lives. And sooo thankful wedding planning is over. Don't get me wrong - wedding planning did have enjoyable aspects but it was exhausting and one of the most stressful experiences I have ever gone through. I don't think I was ever a bridezilla but I had multiple emotional meltdowns and panic attacks over it so it is a relief to finally be past that. I wanted to start writing and sharing about my experience with planning our wedding. What tools we used, what vendors or services we used, where I got decorations or my outfit, why I chose the music I chose, and so on. I always thought being a wedding planner would be a fun job - HA - and now after going through that I have my doubts - but one thing I always loved was reading through the details of how someone planned their day and what they used. And if something I did helps someone else out with their wedding planning then I'm all about that.
Jeremy and I planned the majority of our wedding ourselves. We did have a small amount of help from family and friends here and there but the majority of it was simply us. Hiring a wedding planner was not something I wanted to do nor did I want to spend money on it. I didn't like the idea of entrusting what I saw in my brain to a stranger either. Would hiring a wedding planner have been a less stressful choice? Yes, most definitely but it just wasn't something that fit our plans and I think it did work out well for us.
I used a few different tools to help me plan. They were:
The Budget Savvy Wedding Planner and Organizer - I honestly think I may have bought this book before we got engaged haha but I saw it at the store and thought it fit what we were going for. It had a lot of helpful suggestions and places to write and I will say it helped me think of things I wouldn't have come up with on our own. I didn't fully use it though and there were a lot of sections that I left blank. However I think it was a really helpful book for planning and I did enjoy using it. Plus the cost is reasonable and I think it is a good suggestion for someone who wants to stick to a smaller budget. I have to admit and say Jer and I loosely planned around the budget of the wedding - we could have and should have done better but we got a little lazy on it. We did end up spending quite a bit more than we had originally estimated BUT I am very happy to say we have ZERO debt over the wedding and are doing fine so overall things worked out good. But if I could say one thing to a girl planning her wedding: FIGURE OUT YOUR BUDGET. I stressed a lot about our budget more so because we didn't have a clear one and I think I would have been wayyy more peaceful had I actually taken the time to invest in it. Be wise and don't go into debt over one day. But also try not to stress over every single penny. Invest in the things that matter to you most and let go of the things you don't care about. Photography was super important to me so that was something I knew I wanted to spend more on but I couldn't care less about ceremony decorations so we literally didn't buy a single one. Most likely people won't notice anyway. Just saying.
The Knot - I used to love browsing wedding websites and blogs so I did take advantage of finally getting to research and plan for a real wedding. I created a wedding website through the knot that I think turned out really cute plus IT WAS FREE. I was never going to use one that cost so take advantage of those freebies, ladies. I also used that for guests to RSVP. It helped out a lot (I also gave the option of having the guests email me) but I will say I did have a few people who had problems using it and getting it to let them submit for more than one guest but the majority of the folks it worked out fine for and it was nice to have that available to us. Just a warning though that it could cause problems. I also set up the app on my phone and that was nice to have. There is a great checklist and guest list feature and a way to budget. I mostly did not use these because it almost felt like another to do for me but they would be great help to anyone and I highly recommend it. I also looked on the knot website at their blog posts numerous times for inspiration on decor, music and how to's that I was unsure about. It was a really nice resource.
Instagram and Pinterest - Honestly, I got most of my inspiration for style from instagram and pinterest. I love following wedding photographers or design accounts so any time I came across a pretty photo I saved that baby. Same with pinterest. I didn't do most of the things I found BUT it was a really nice way to gather inspiration and try to figure out what it was that I wanted and how I could do my own spin on it.
Good ol' pen and paper or word documents - The majority of my wedding planning and lists did not take place on a wedding app, website or in a planning book. I created a wedding binder. I wrote out a thousand lists (not much of an exaggeration) on basic paper or I typed up documents on word and I saved and printed and edited them over the 8 months we planned. I prefer being able to write stuff out the way I wanted and this worked for me. But do be cautious because I ended up with so many lists that I felt insane towards the end and wanted to cry over the stack of papers that I had. Basically: use real paper but be more organized than me.
I didn't use many tools but I am happy with what we did. I know we could have done better and used our resources and time better. There are things about the planning process that I could have changed that would have made it easier on us but now that it is all said and done I truly do think we did pretty good. It's a hard time and it is a hard time to stay organized. My biggest piece of advice would be to not procrastinate. We got lazy in the earlier months and so when it started hitting 3 months to go - I was a trainwreck. Do your best to stay on top of it even if it feels like you have plenty of time. You want to be relaxed and able to enjoy your day.
Thanks so much for sticking around and reading this. I am hoping to share more wedding posts soon. Stay tuned.